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This is what were supposed to do. As parents we are wired to be there for them when they fail.
we have put our kid in a bad situation. We have taught him that there
is something he can fail at and it's completely okay. About a month and a
half ago Paxton started pulling up on furniture. It was a slow learning
process for him. He army crawls. He won't crawl on his hands in knees.
While he can still crawl the 40 yard dash faster than I can run it, he
still was having trouble getting his greasy hands on top of the coffee
Once he learned to get his finger nubs up
there, he starting pulling himself up. What happened next? What goes up
must come down. And he didn't know how to get down. So, he would fall
into a sitting position. He wasn't hurt, but it would scare him so he
Our solution: clap and cheer when he fell
on his butt. He wouldn't start crying immediately. He looked at us. He
was waiting to see our reaction. If we coddled, he cried. So, we
starting clapping and cheering like it was the right way to get down.
when he's pulling up and the apple sauce has made his hands slippery
and he falls on his butt he starts clapping for himself. He has failed
and we have encouraged the same negative behavior. I can see it now.
He's will be in middle school, standing up and when he wants to get down
he just falls all the way to the floor and stats clapping for himself.
What an epic parenting fail. Oh, and did I mention that his clapping his
him just flailing his hands in the air. He hasn't made the hands touch.
We're still working on that.